56
existence by a single experiment. A young man is compelled by the monogamic system to develop 
his character by means of corrupt society vampires or women of the lower classes, and though he 
may learn a great deal from these sources, it cannot but be unfortunate that he has no opportunity 
to learn from women of his own birth, breeding, education and rank in society. 
Now, monogamy has very little to do with mongyny; and should have less. Monogamy is only a 
mistake because it leaves the excess women unsatisfied and unprovided for. But apart from this, it 
provides for posterity, and it is generally recognized that this is the crux of all practical arguments 
on the subject. But the defect of monogamy, as generally understood, is that it is connected with 
the sexual appetite. The Practical Wisdom of the Astrologers has made this clear. The Fifth House 
(love, children) has nothing to do with the Seventh (marriage, lawsuits, public enemies). Marriage 
would lead to very little trouble if men would get rid of the idea that it is anything more than a 
financial and social partnership. People should marry for convenience and agree to go their separate 
ways without jealousy. It should be a point of honour for the woman to avoid complicating the 
situation with children by other men, unless her husband be willing, which he would be if he really 
loved her. It is monstrous for a man to pretend to be devoted to securing his wife's happiness and 
yet to wish to deprive her of a woman's supreme joy: that of bearing a child to the man whom she 
desires sexually, and is therefore indicated by nature as the proper father, though he may be 
utterly unsuitable as a husband. In most cases this would be so, for it must obviously be rare that a 
man with a genius for paternity should also possess a talent for domesticity. We have heard a great 
deal in recent years of the freedom of women. They have gained what they thought they wanted 
and it has availed them nothing. They must adopt the slogan, "There shall be no property in human 
flesh." They must train men to master their sexual selfishness, while of course allowing them the 
same freedom as they themselves will enjoy. The true offences against marriage arise when sexual 
freedom results in causing injury to the health or estate of the partner. But the sentimental wrong 
of so-called infidelity is a symptom of the childishness of the race. 
Among artists, the system here advocated has always been more or less in full swing. Such societies 
exist in circumstances highly inimical to a 
{111} 
satisfactory life. Financial considerations alone make this obvious; yet it is notorious that such 
people are almost uniformly happy. There is no revolt against the facts of life, because there is no 
constraint. The individual is respected as such and is allowed to act as he or she likes without 
penalty or even reproach. Only when selfish or commercial considerations arise do we find 
catastrophe. 
It is commonly supposed that women themselves are the chief obstacle to such an arrangement. But 
this is only because they have been drilled in to thinking that the happiness and well-being of the 
children depend upon their supporting the existing system. When you tackle a woman on the 
subject she pretends to be very shocked; and hysterically denies the most obvious facts. But she 
wilts under cross-examination and agrees with the above conclusions in a very short time. For 
women have no morality in the sense of the world which is ordinarily understood in Anglo-
Saxondom. Women never let ideals interfere with their practical good sense. They are also 
influenced by selfishness; it is natural to them to put the interests of their children before their 
own. Men, on the other hand, are hard to convince. When forced to analyse the situation, they 
arrive not at a reason but at a prejudice, and this is purely the brainless bestial lust for exclusive 
possession. 
Anthropology proves these theorems thoroughly. The first step in civilization is to restrain women 
from infidelity. The institutions of the pardah, sati and the marriage laws all show that men think 
that women must be kept under lock and key, whereas women have always realized that it is 
impossible and undesirable to prevent men from taking their happiness where they find it. The 
emancipation of women, therefore, depends entirely upon leaving them free to act as men do. 
Their good sense will prevent them from inflicting the real wrongs; and besides, their complete 
independence and happiness will encourage them in nobility and generosity.